Post by Rob W. Case on Jun 3, 2004 16:38:19 GMT -6
Have you ever let things bother you and take control of your life? Have you ever had people talk about you behind your back and someone let you know about it? Did you hold a grudge toward that person who was saying negative things behind your back in your own way?
This actually may help you in your struggle with the “silent killers”.
First of all, people are not perfect. People are corruptible and sin. That is human nature. Some people (gossips) take the smallest thing that bothers them, and tell their friends for a large amount of time all about it. It is usually in the negative. Some people overhear the gossip (say, a friend of the person who is being slammed) and then they go and tell their friend what was said and by whom. Then it is up to the person who is being slammed to either let it bother them, or to get angry and handle it in that manner.
For the person who lets it bother them: It sets a lot of strange vibes. When you work with that person, or see that person again, something goes off and you get strange vibes. You may blush, be outraged, or so because that person’s presence fully reminds you of the negative situation. What can you do?
For the person who gets angry and handles the matter: This is what I have seen happen numerous times. One person says something about the other person, and the person who is being talked to by the gossiper goes to their friend and then says what the gossiper said about that person. Then the one being slammed goes right to the source and then pregnant doges them completely out. Not only does this make matters worse, but it damages the circle three ways. The person who is being slammed is mad at the gossiper, and the gossiper is mad at the friend who told the one being slammed what the gossiper said. This is the more damaging method because someone will sometimes say that someone else will say something when they really didn’t, so that the one who was “slammed” gets angry at the alleged “gossiper”. I have seen this tactic used when it comes to girls coveting boyfriends that people want.
The best thing to do is to get a hold of your self, and with God’s help, discipline yourself. If you go to the source and dog them out, they may act as though they do not know what you’re talking about and you will look crazy to others. The vibes may still continue, but the best thing to do, and this is where it requires the discipline…. Forgive them. If you play with (what I like to call) the negative force of the situation, then matters will get worse and worse. Things will then bother you more and more when you are with that person or counteract with that person.
This actually may help you in your struggle with the “silent killers”.
First of all, people are not perfect. People are corruptible and sin. That is human nature. Some people (gossips) take the smallest thing that bothers them, and tell their friends for a large amount of time all about it. It is usually in the negative. Some people overhear the gossip (say, a friend of the person who is being slammed) and then they go and tell their friend what was said and by whom. Then it is up to the person who is being slammed to either let it bother them, or to get angry and handle it in that manner.
For the person who lets it bother them: It sets a lot of strange vibes. When you work with that person, or see that person again, something goes off and you get strange vibes. You may blush, be outraged, or so because that person’s presence fully reminds you of the negative situation. What can you do?
For the person who gets angry and handles the matter: This is what I have seen happen numerous times. One person says something about the other person, and the person who is being talked to by the gossiper goes to their friend and then says what the gossiper said about that person. Then the one being slammed goes right to the source and then pregnant doges them completely out. Not only does this make matters worse, but it damages the circle three ways. The person who is being slammed is mad at the gossiper, and the gossiper is mad at the friend who told the one being slammed what the gossiper said. This is the more damaging method because someone will sometimes say that someone else will say something when they really didn’t, so that the one who was “slammed” gets angry at the alleged “gossiper”. I have seen this tactic used when it comes to girls coveting boyfriends that people want.
The best thing to do is to get a hold of your self, and with God’s help, discipline yourself. If you go to the source and dog them out, they may act as though they do not know what you’re talking about and you will look crazy to others. The vibes may still continue, but the best thing to do, and this is where it requires the discipline…. Forgive them. If you play with (what I like to call) the negative force of the situation, then matters will get worse and worse. Things will then bother you more and more when you are with that person or counteract with that person.