Post by Rob W. Case on Jul 19, 2004 13:30:38 GMT -6
Have you ever gotten mad at someone so much that you wanted to get even with them, inflict some form of violence on them, or hurt them psychologically? If you haven’t you are not human.
Let’s examine this:
If someone bumps into you at a grocery store and they roll their eyes and do not apologize, what comes natural to you? Do you get angry or show mercy? I would get angry.
What if the situation were the same, but after the person bumped into you and said they were sorry, how would you handle it? I would and have on many occasions shown mercy, forgiven them, and then shrugged the situation off.
Why is that? I think personally it makes a difference with the fact that the person at fault acknowledges your feelings and then makes their case based on that. They think of you, and express their concern for causing your inconvenience. Some people will not show mercy at all, and will not give the person at fault the time of day. This relies on self and not others. It is a new way to detect selfishness.
Another scenario is this:
You have a waitress who is pretty careless. She brings you your food, but doesn’t ask if you want a refill. It takes her forever to get you your bill, as you see her talking with her friends on the other side of the booth. You don’t know what to do. Do you say something and create a scene? Do you come up to her and quietly bring to her attention that you want the check?
Some waitresses are sorry that they forgot about you. When people apologize, and ask if they can do anything else for you, I forgive them and it reflects in my tip, as though the situation never happened.
Now when they do not apologize, I take at lease a dollar away. One time, I went to a Pizza Hut in my home town. The waitress was a girl that I knew from school and she was a you-know-what. She didn’t seem to like me because her friends didn’t like me. She never had a reason not to like me. I went with two other friends to the Pizza Hut and they didn’t like her attitude either. I was polite, regardless of what happened in the past and at school. The past was in the past, and it will stay there forever. Anyway, I said thank you, she didn’t. She was a real snot. I had to ask for the check, and she had an attitude. I still gave her something though. I actually gave her more than she deserved. Now, that penny is still probably under her car seat.
When you acknowledge someone’s feelings, and you go that extra mile to apologize, you show that you care just enough so that that person doesn’t get hurt. It’s all about caring for others. It’s all about acknowledging a person’s feelings. If you show mercy on someone, when it is your turn, someone will show mercy on you.
Let’s examine this:
If someone bumps into you at a grocery store and they roll their eyes and do not apologize, what comes natural to you? Do you get angry or show mercy? I would get angry.
What if the situation were the same, but after the person bumped into you and said they were sorry, how would you handle it? I would and have on many occasions shown mercy, forgiven them, and then shrugged the situation off.
Why is that? I think personally it makes a difference with the fact that the person at fault acknowledges your feelings and then makes their case based on that. They think of you, and express their concern for causing your inconvenience. Some people will not show mercy at all, and will not give the person at fault the time of day. This relies on self and not others. It is a new way to detect selfishness.
Another scenario is this:
You have a waitress who is pretty careless. She brings you your food, but doesn’t ask if you want a refill. It takes her forever to get you your bill, as you see her talking with her friends on the other side of the booth. You don’t know what to do. Do you say something and create a scene? Do you come up to her and quietly bring to her attention that you want the check?
Some waitresses are sorry that they forgot about you. When people apologize, and ask if they can do anything else for you, I forgive them and it reflects in my tip, as though the situation never happened.
Now when they do not apologize, I take at lease a dollar away. One time, I went to a Pizza Hut in my home town. The waitress was a girl that I knew from school and she was a you-know-what. She didn’t seem to like me because her friends didn’t like me. She never had a reason not to like me. I went with two other friends to the Pizza Hut and they didn’t like her attitude either. I was polite, regardless of what happened in the past and at school. The past was in the past, and it will stay there forever. Anyway, I said thank you, she didn’t. She was a real snot. I had to ask for the check, and she had an attitude. I still gave her something though. I actually gave her more than she deserved. Now, that penny is still probably under her car seat.
When you acknowledge someone’s feelings, and you go that extra mile to apologize, you show that you care just enough so that that person doesn’t get hurt. It’s all about caring for others. It’s all about acknowledging a person’s feelings. If you show mercy on someone, when it is your turn, someone will show mercy on you.